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Why is there so much hate in the world? Wouldn’t you want a world with peace? Why do we all fight? All these arguments about who’s life matters doesn’t matter because ALL lives matter. We all bleed the same. We have so much hate. Violence. Cruelty. Bullying. Racism. So many people are taking their own lives because of all the hate. So many people are taking the innocent lives of others because of hate. We need to love one another. Help one another. Protect one another. Inspire one another. We are all human. We all make mistakes. Some bigger than others but mistakes are a part of being human. If we were to all come together and help those in need instead of shame them we could make the world a better place. All these shootings? WE could help prevent them. Reach out to someone who needs help whether you know them or not., You never know what’s going on inside someone’s head. We seem to forget that we are all human and that we all bleed the same. As Ellen DeGenerous says, “Be kind to one another.”

Grief: keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss; sharp sorrow; painful regret.

We all have a time in our lives when we grieve over something or someone. Whether it’s a pet or someone really close to you we all go through it. Grief doesn’t necessarily mean death. You can grieve over anything. Maybe your pet ran away and you can’t seem to find them. Don’t grieve, put together a search party. Pets always know where home is they’ll come back. Don’t grieve, don’t give up. You can grieve over someone who is alive yet they’re distancing themselves or maybe choosing a bad habit over you. Maybe you know someone who has chosen drugs and made them their top priority. Help them. Don’t walk out. They need you. Just like you need them. Don’t grieve, help. Maybe someone chose to be with someone else and left you. Don’t grieve, move on. There’s always someone better, someone you deserve and someone who will treat you better.

In the situation of death, the grief is different. Whether you knew about it and were just anticipating it to happen or if it was something that happens suddenly, it hurts. When it happens suddenly that’s when it hurts the worst but you will get through it. You might not get past it especially if they weren’t helped when they knew something was wrong and were asking for help. Yes, the grief will last a while. Will it last forever? No. Will it get better? If you don’t dwell on it, yes. Will it get easier? Of course. We all learn to live and move on. Of course you’ll have those days where one day is worse than the other but you’ll get through it. You will be okay. It will get easier to push forward. Find someone who will be there for you and lend you their shoulder to cry on. It hurts, but it will be okay. Grief is something that hurts for a while then it passes. You will always have the memories. So chin up! Think of all the happy times. That is what will help you get through it most of all. You will see them again! Promise!

Walk on with hope in your heart and you’ll never walk alone.

Rodgers and Hammerstein Carousel

Do you ever feel down? Lost? Alone? I’m here to tell you, you’re not alone. If you or someone you know is going through a rough time or having negative thoughts don’t be afraid to say something. If you ever feel like you’re alone, you’re not. There’s millions of people who feel the same exact way as you. Millions. Reach out to someone. Find a support group. There’s plenty out there. Don’t be afraid, reach out to someone who could save your life. Reach out to someone who needs saving. Don’t let depression get you down, don’t let it be the reason your life ends. You only have one life to live so live it the best way. Go fulfill your bucket list. Go sky diving. Go bungee jumping, rock climbing, kayaking. Go audition for American Idol. You can do literally anything you want. No where does it say depression should keep you in the house all day. Go have fun! Fulfill your wildest dreams. You deserve to be happy.

Don’t ever feel like you have to fight your battle alone. Reach out. Kick out the negative, keep the positive. You are better than that. YOU ARE WORTH IT! Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise. If they do, you don’t need them. If they don’t support and uplift you in your battle, find someone who will and understands. Make changes and move on. In the end, it’ll all be okay. Stay positive!

You’re perfect. You deserve it. You’re worth it.

Cimorelli

We were working at IHOP together when I met him and I had known him for a good while after working there. His name is Jayson. I had just gotten out of a relationship and he just randomly asked me for my number and I gave it to him. So naturally we just started talking. Things moved pretty fast for us. Including our daughter. No, she wasn’t planned. NEVER a mistake. She was our little surprise. The end of 2014 is when we found out about her. I knew something was off so I went to get checked and sure enough I had a positive pregnancy test. Was I happy? Yes. Was I scared? Of course. My pregnancy with her was healthy with no complications. I couldn’t complain. I craved chicken, SO MUCH CHICKEN! Then August 2015 came around, her due date. Every day in August I was impatiently awaiting her arrival. August 17, 11pm I had what I thought could’ve been a contraction. 11:05pm the same thing happened again. I thought “no her due date is next week this is just Braxton hicks. I’ll be fine.” 11:10pm, another one. This time I thought “maybe it is time.” 11:15pm, another one annnnnd my water broke. That’s when I knew it was time to stop doubting. So we head to the hospital and sure enough they confirmed my water had broke. About 13 hours and 17 min later I had a beautiful, healthy 6 pound 7 oz baby girl in my hands. I had her all natural, no epidural, no pain meds. I was scared of the epidural. The only one in the delivery room with me was Jayson and all through my pregnancy I said he was the only one I wanted there. No problem in that right?

Fast forward to September 2017. My grandparents watched Lilly while Jayson and I went to Washington DC. We had fun there and seen all kinds of cool things. Then it was our last full day there and we went to the cathedral for one of our last things to see. Next thing I know he’s proposing! I’ll admit I didn’t know what to do or how to act. He didn’t do the one knee thing but he had the ring that’s how I knew. And he didn’t ask “will you marry me?” No, he said, “can I keep you forever?” I thought that was so sweet. But I was frozen. Finally I said yes! We have yet to get married, I think wedding planning scares us both! But we’ll get there. Yes we are still happy. We talk about it a lot. Just taking it day by day. Enjoying the small things.

Life Is what happens while you’re busy making plans. -Allen Saunders

Hello! And welcome to my blog! Today I took my daughter, Lilly, to the park. It was 60 outside! Crazy! She had a blast and made some new friends. I even talked to one of the moms there who had her 2 month baby with her. I asked how far apart her girls were just in curiosity. They’re about 4 years apart. My sister and I are 5 years apart so I was curious how her oldest does with the baby. When my sister was born I played little mommy sometimes. Changed her diaper, fed her. She said her oldest does the same but sometimes she does seem to get jealous and wants all the attention on her. All normal. Meanwhile, Lilly’s just playing with all the other kids that were there, having a blast. They were all running and sliding and even pretending one of the jungle gyms were a boat! I remember those days. Not a care in the world. I love watching her play whether at home or at the park with other kids. I think she enjoys the interaction with other kids as well because at home all she has is mommy and daddy. Then it was time for her friends to leave. They all said their goodbyes and Lilly wanted to keep playing. But that didn’t last too long because she missed her friends she had just made. She was ready to go. So we went home and she ended up taking a little nap. Poor girl was worn out. I love every moment with her. She is my world. Enjoy the little things. You never know when your time is up.

Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.

-Mahatma Gandhi

My name is Ashlei and welcome to my blog! I will be writing about anything life. From just plain advice to anything exciting that happens in my life. Thanks for stopping by!